I have had some questions that I would like to share with you. (As well as the answer.)
Q: Do you know if there is a certain amount of time that needs to pass after death to reach spirithood? Is it pretty instant? Do these stories of people heading down a tunnel to a light an actual occurrence? Is that just an individual experience?
A:I don't know what you exactly mean with 'reaching spirithood' but I can tell you that alot of people don't even understand they are dead when they die. They keep wandering the earth as if they were still alive. So if that's what you are referring to I can only say there is no certain amount of time needed. Some people know exactly what is happening when they die and move on. Some just don't have a clue and linger on for several years before they come to the conclusion their earthly life is over.
The tunnel of light is indeed an actual occurence. First of all leaving your body consciously can give you that tunnel effect. Ask anybody who had an out of body experience. Secondly, the white light at the end of such a tunnel is actually the energy/love of a very high evolved spirit that manifests itself so you can see it (or some of your relatives) so you feel at ease. But it is indeed an individual experience, since not everybody leaves his/her body conciously, e.g. with a brutal accident.